According to a Hadith (saying of Prophet Muhammad – peace be upon him), the parents of a person constitute his Heaven or Hell. This implies that if a person obeys his parents and attends to their needs and comforts and keeps them happy, he will enter into Paradise. On the other hand, if he is rude and disobedient to them and offends them by ignoring their feelings or by causing them grief in any other way, his place shall be in Hell.
But the hadith does not seem to bother some population of people. Once i’ve known an old lady who kept asking when will her sons come and visit her…..I felt like telling her, they will never come and visit you…they will create a lot of lame excuses such as ‘i will be busy’, i do not have money even to eat’, i can’t even renew my road tax’….and so on…and so on… I was wondering…how many years had they live and yet they can still claim that they have no money??? Dude, you can find money, but you can’t replace a mother! Another funny thing was one of her son can be considered rich, but pathetically he even asked his mother to repay him back whenever her mother asked for money. His secretary (his wife) will remind him every RM that his mother borrowed from him….hahahahahhaha…Sad isn’t it?
The time that the parents need to be looked after most carefully is in their old age, and to serve them devotedly in that state is most pleasing to Allah and it is an easy way to attain Paradise.The Prophet (peace be upon him) is reported to have said: “Obey your parents and treat them with kindness, your children will be kind and obedient to you.” But from my observation, the children did not even bother about their living parent…They are forever BUSY yet have NO MONEY.
Abdullah ibn Mas’ud said, ‘I asked the Prophet [s], “Which deed is most liked by Allah?” He said, “Prayer offered on time.” I asked him, “Then what?” He said, “Kindness and respect towards parents.” I asked him, “Then what?” He said, “Jihad for the sake of Allah.”‘
A man came and asked the Prophet [s] for permission to participate in Jihad. He asked him, ‘Are your parents alive?’ He said, ‘yes,’ so the Prophet [s] told him, ‘perform Jihad by taking care of them.’ [Muslim vol. 4 Hadith no. 6184]
How I wish all the hadith can make them realize on their duty towards their parents…But none of this seems to bother them. They are too selfish to think about their parents. Yes, I did see Allah punishment to them even before they die…but none of that make sense to them. Ya Allah, make them realize their sins before they stop breathing. Amin…
When our parents reach the age of senility and infirmity, they are under our care. Therefore, we must take time to choose the right words to say to them, words that will make them feel loved and wanted. Also, pray for them for the unforgettable favours they have done for us, as they took care of us when we were small and weak.
رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيراً
“My Lord! Bestow on them Your mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.”
(Aayah No. 24, Surah Al-Isra’, Chapter No. 17, Holy Qur’an)